Happily Ever After…

Do you still dream about finding the One? Perhaps your marriage started out happy? What happened? Sometimes we may feel stuck or trapped in our created emotional prisons.

I am reminded of a famous cartoon: A prisoner, shaking the bars, desperately trying to get out – but to his right and left it is open - no bars! All the prisoner has to do is walk around, but still he frantically shakes the bars.

You are your own jailer. Most of us come to therapy feeling trapped – imprisoned by our thoughts, behaviours, marriages, jobs, fears or our past. Sometimes we imprison ourselves with a narrative of self-punishment.

Full disclosure – and I am not proud of it - this is my third marriage. First two marriages (seven years in between) lasted less than two years each, including the divorces! The decision to end my first marriage brought me to the brink of ending my life, as I was so ashamed. The second marriage evolved me into a very very angry person. At that point I blamed everyone and everything around me!

Divorce is traumatic and my self-esteem then, was at an all-time low. It required a lot of work and introspection and many teachers, to resolve the issues of my past.

It took an amazing man to teach me what unconditional love really meant. It has not always been moonshine and roses and still requires constant vigilance, self-awareness and commitment to nurture this precious gift of Love. We can never take each other or what we have for granted.

We recently celebrated our 19th wedding anniversary. The greatest achievement of my life so far – to be happily married.

For more information: Karin Engman 082 7246985 (whatsapp) or thehummingbird@vodamail.co.za Facebook: Karin Engman Life Coach

Life Coaching is a talk therapy with a practical outcome approach. Make your appointment today! De Zandsteen Centre crn Robertson & Fourie street 50 minutes @ R350