Sorrow

The concept ‘in the blink of an eye everything changed’, is a reminder to us all to live more mindfully. To be fully present in your everyday. A traumatic and unexpected loss is a very different process of grief as it is not part of the natural cycle of life.

I would like to dedicate this writing to all those who are in pain and sadness. Grief has no time limit and some may never ‘get over’ the loss of a loved one. It is a very personal journey. May you, in time, find the strength to learn to live alongside the loss and find the courage to live and laugh again.

I have often quoted an inspirational teacher in my writings. He passed away peacefully in his home, at the age of 95, on the 22/1/22.

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This Body is not Me – by Thich Nhat Hanh

This body is not me, I am life without boundaries, Look at the ocean and the sky filled with stars.

Even when the cloud is no longer there, it continues as snow or rain. It is impossible for the cloud to die. It can become rain or ice but I cannot become nothing. The cloud does not need to have a soul in order to continue. There’s no beginning and no end. I will never die. There will be a dissolution of this body, but that does not mean my death. I, my soul, will continue, always.

It is only because of our misunderstanding that we think the person we love no longer exists after they ‘pass away’. We suffer because we think the person has gone. We suffer and feel sad. The person we love is still there. They are around us and within us and smiling at us. In our grief we cannot recognize them and say “they are gone – where have they gone – why did you leave me?”. Just like the cloud that changes – they are not lost.”

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The Dalai Lama had a beautiful relationship and friendship with the late Arch Desmond Tutu. It always touched me how much laughter and bantering there was between them. Yet when it came to discussing spiritual matters they seemed to sink into a mutual connection that went beyond the fundamental differences in concept.

Thich Nhat Hanh also wrote about that place that transcends religious separation and that connection of the humanness within each one of us –that is where we meet.

Grief transcends religion – our sorrow and our pain is the same. Doing the ‘work’ facilitates the possibility to get through to the other side of loss. To be able to embrace life again. To feel joy again. May you find “Deep Peace like the shining Stars in the vastness of the night canopy”

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