Sorrow Unmasked

Grief has no time line. This year will be ten years and the loss remains unchanged. It took me two years before I noticed that I could talk about my brother without going into overwhelm. I burned many beautiful candles in a large bowl that became a wax sculpture, as I remembered and grieved.

Honouring WHO we have lost – in remembering the joy and the sorrow – who am I without this significant person in my life – heartache – drowning sadness - anger – guilt – shame….is a very personal journey. Unfortunately the pain will not miraculously dissolve and disappear even if we become skilled at avoiding – it requires emotional efforts to be whole again. It is a process of shedding the mask to allow life to flow back into your heart, to be able to feel joy again.

Significant loss is not only about actual death. An ending of a marriage or a relationship that you built all your dreams on have a similar impact. Talk therapy is like allowing your grief wound to be in fresh air and sunlight. Allow your heart to heal – you still have time – you still have life.

“When you are sorrowful. Look again in your heart and you shall see that in truth you are weeping for what has been your delight. Your joy is your sorrow unmasked. The deeper your sorrow carves into your being the more joy you can contain”. – Kahlil Gibran

For more information: NLP Life Coach Karin Engman 082 7246985 or thehummingbird@vodamail.co.za