Trauma Response

We all carry some form of trauma from experiences in our past. The inability to receive or ask for support from others is a very common behaviour but also a trauma response. “I don’t need anyone, I’ll just do it all myself” conditioning, is a survival tactic.

Poor or absent parenting, abusive or toxic relationships/marriage, lies and betrayals result in lack of trust. You learn to allow people only as close as what feels safe for you and where you can stay in control.

We learn to shield our heart to avoid experiencing similar pain again. Rejection, abuse, neglect, betrayal, and disappointment are just some of the scars we may carry.

Extreme-independence is all about TRUST issues. Not needing to rely on someone means I will not be disappointed or risk heartbreak. No matter how you dress it up, in truth it’s your wounded, scarred, broken heart behind a protective brick wall.

Impenetrable. Nothing gets in. No hurt gets in. But no love gets in either.

Fortresses and armour are for those in battle, or who believe the battle is coming.

It’s a trauma response.

This all evolves into a lonely existence. There is no love without risk. To trust requires to be vulnerable. To trust means to believe there is hope.

Trauma that is acknowledged is trauma that can be healed. It does require effort and bravery. Make your appointment today. Start doing your work. You are not alone on this road.

Stress Management/Anxiety & Depression/Trauma/Grief & Loss/Anger Management

Life Coaching is a talk therapy with a practical outcome approach. My pledge to you: no judgement - no shame – guaranteed – I have been there too.

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