Validation

Do you feel taken for granted? Is that sparkle in the eye no more?

We need validation in a relationship/marriage and teach each other our love language. We need to be heard and to be seen in order to feel loved.

Do we still make eye contact when we speak to each other? Do we still bother with taking care of ourselves physically to stay attractive?

Research shows that even small babies gauge love by how a parent or caregiver looks at them.

We learn from a very young age that we need to earn love. We constantly compare ourselves and adopt a belief of not enough.

Unhappiness in a marriage does not mean it was a mistake and you need to get out. It may mean that it is time to revise how we re-act to each other which in time becomes impossible to ignore.

An analogy: anger is the iceberg that sticks out above water.

Underneath anger sits fear – underneath fear sits sadness.

“Unexpressed emotions will never die. They are buried alive and will come forth later in uglier ways” - Sigmund Freud

If you are having thoughts of ending a marriage/partnership – it is important to talk about it so that you can have impartial and non-judgemental, confidential support and guidance before making big decisions. If talking is not an option you could simply de-stress with a TRE session. www.treforafrica.com

Life Coaching is a talk therapy where you will gain fresh perspectives and life management skills without needing to tell your entire life story.

TRE is a body modality to release stress and tension physically (www.treforafrica.com) Attend a class or private sessions (or with a friend) – it is easy and even one sessions will bring results

NLP Life Coaching is a talk therapy where you can learn to understand your own neuro-linguistics - the brain language - how we think and self-talk. Here is where we can make changes immediately so that we can make good choices.

For more information – Karin Engman 082 7246985 (Whatsapp) or thehummingbird@vodamail.co.za