Vulnerability

Finding the way back to ourselves and one another requires language and the grounded confidence to both tell our story and to really hear our own story. The hamster wheel in our mind does not reflect truth the way it does when spoken out loud in a safe environment.

It requires vulnerability and bravery to talk about yourself, yet, surprisingly, spoken out loud it seldom is as terrible and shameful as it is in our thoughts.

Many times over the past ten years, I have questioned if I am sharing too much personal information on a public platform of my weekly articles. Often it required a real push to press the send button, for my articles to be published. Learning that this is a common experience for writers, I have found more courage to be vulnerable and to share some of what makes me just as human as the next person.

As an introvert it is the ultimate challenge for me to do any form of motivational/public speaking. It is absolutely terrifying for me. I know today that this stems from junior school trauma. Awareness of the root of our emotions enables us to consciously manage them so that the past does not control the present or the future. The risk of ridicule or negative response is still very real to me. Therefor I have set myself the challenge to NOT avoid/decline when the opportunity presents, but to rejoice in the invitation and the honour. (and then I panic about it after)

Naming our Emotions is the first step to navigating our inner map.

Sad – Happy – Angry are the three most common feelings we can easily identify, but research shows that the human emotions are far more complex than that.

We need language to express emotions so that we can understand the connection of emotion and our behaviour.

Self-Awareness and the recognition of the connection of WHAT I am feeling is our life map that we need in order to navigate life successfully. There is no amount of shame that should stand in our way of moving forward and healing the past. Empathy toward self is very different to self-pity. Be brave, even if it brings out your insecurities!

Vulnerability is the only true way to experience Love and to feel alive.

Life coaching is a practical outcome talk therapy using the techniques of Modern Applied Psychology.

For more information contact: Karin Engman

@ Mind Wellness in Ermelo 082 7246985

NOW @ MIZPAH (opp JJ School) AND ALSO @ HUMMINGBIRD

Published Author: “A Path of Choices”

www.karindedekind-engman.com